Savvy Article – The Resistance

Written in  response to How to Navigate a Midlife Career Transition: One Day at a Time.

As we approach fifty, or accelerate past it, we represent a resistance to ‘change’ movement in the workplace.

The reality is that we have had plenty of years in which to witness the same so-called ‘changes’ having been tried out over and over again, each time with a new label to dress the change up as something new and different, rather than something previously tested and failed.

This been-there-done-it-before knowledge, is intimidating our younger superiors who want to push through their changes without having to deal with ageing cynics! The best tactic, as they see it, is to band around the term burnout by tagging it to a dart and taking aim!

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At this point, in one’s career (i.e. the end of it!), it’s time for the eye of the bull/cow (or cow/bull) to go all Popeye on the shooter, i.e. to get out, get up and be one’s own centre of attention!

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Personally, I’m going to c**p out all of the books that I’ve had in my head for 49 years.

Youngsters, move aside! Jay Cool is here!

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It’s time to let rip!

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Copyright owned by Jay Cool, August 2019

All images courtesy of Pixabay.com

 

 

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Savvy Book – Pure

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Sure, Julianna Baggot’s ‘Pure’ may well be a post-apocalyptic novel centering around the adventures of four knife-wielding teenagers but, to me, as a very-much-in-the-present-middle-aged-and-stressed-out mother, there is much I can relate to.

Imagine this scene:

You have lost your grip over your teenage sprogs, who have abandoned ship. You were rather hoping that, once settled, they would let you know of their whereabouts and, every once in a while, message you to keep you up to date on their wellbeing score.

You hear nothing.

The days turn into weeks, and even months, and your own anxiety levels are off the top of the gauge. You turn on the news, and learn about the increase in violent crime is forcing young people into carrying weapons of self-defence, just in case they should fall victim to any of the numerous marauding gangs, all so poor and desperate, that they are terrorising cities, destroying properties and collecting up anything that moves – be it animal, human or hybrid – for their ongoing sustenance!

It is unlikely, of course, that your own sprogs are being cooked up. The truth is that you are suffering from empty-nest syndrome and you have over-thought yourself into an hallucinatory state. If only, you think. If only your sprogs had remained newborn; newborn and  forever unable to get themselves up to walk, run and take-off without you!

To console yourself, you go for a soup-bowl sized mug of caramel-sweetened Latte in your favourite cafe. You pick up a teaspoon and scoop off the cream topping. It tastes delicious, and you settle down to slurp up the rest, whilst reading your favourite novel in blissful unaccompanied peacefulness.

But, barely have you finished reading the opening paragraph, than the silence is disturbed by a load of bickering. Some mother’s sprogs don’t want the 50p Babycinos – instead, they are demanding mint-chocolate milkshakes with price-tags closer to £4!

The mother ignores them.

She is busy trying to work out how to fish her cash card out of her back-pack when she’s got a small baby stuck fast to her front in a baby-sling sucking the life out of her.

Unable to get their mother’s attention, the sprogs start to bicker with each other instead.

And, in all the kerfuffle, the baby, not wanting to be left out of the furore playing out between its siblings, becomes unstuck and starts crying.

The mother starts flapping.

The cashier starts tapping her ring-finger on the counter; she’s got other customers to serve. The next customer in the queue, an old lady, who’s forgotten all about the reality of parenting, starts complaining about the wait and dishes out advice to the terribly incompetent mother about giving her offspring a good hiding, etc.

Your was-about-to-be-a-favourite novel, feeling neglected, falls to the floor.

And you watch, with horror (and fascination), as the ticked-off mother, cash-card forgotten about, starts yelling at the old lady about how much she’d like to give her a good hiding instead.

Sounds familiar? That’s because the aforementioned stressed-out mother is your younger self, the you that you once were before your little darlings abandoned you. Perhaps, you think. Perhaps, you won’t after all, be adopting any replacements!

In this imaginary scenario, I have pretty much summed up what I see as the main theme of ‘Pure’. It’s not so much about teenagers, as it is about empty-nest syndrome. The moral of the tale being to ‘be careful what you wish for’. Do you really want to mollycoddle your sprogs forever, to stop them from growing up, and to protect them from the big bad world out there?

Really?

Perhaps you need to bear witness to your wish through the eyes of one of Baggott’s teenage characters:

‘As the crowd moves closer, Partridge sees that the children are not just with their mothers. They’re attached. The first woman … walks with an uneven gait. The child who’d seemed to be holding on to her leg is actually fused there. Legless, the boy has only one arm, and his torso and head protrude from her upper thigh. Another woman has eyes peering out from a bulbous baby head that sits like a goiter on her neck.’ (pp.246-247)

Need a moment to reconsider? Has your wish come true? Or might you (with a little help from Baggott) have just conjured up your worst nightmare?

Copyright of review owned by Jay Cool, August 2019

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Savvy Poem – Worthlessness

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Am I worth less than a life that is half my age?

If that is the case, then why do they double me up,

paying me twice as much as my younger self,

only to then let go of my worthlessness –

to save themselves from the cost

of my pricelessness?

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, August 2019

Image by WikiImages from Pixabay

 

Savvy Article – Boris & Donald

Savvy Poem – This is Important

Savvy Poem – Shrivelled

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I shake off the lines that led me to this point,

and, in the aftermath, I feel the smoothness of the surface of myself,

whilst considering whether I really know where the point is.

Is it at the sharp tip of my artist’s B pencil?

Is it at the tip of my Hubby’s Roman beak?

Is it at a dot marking a particular milestone in my forty-nine years of living?

Which point exactly am I realigning myself up for?

And why, when the lines in my skin, are the point of my everything,

do I stand here, pathetically shaking them off?

 

I do a recall of the lines.

And, now I stand here,

pointedly waiting

to be shrivelled back into existence.

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, August, 2019

Silly Poem – A BJ Haiku

Savvy Diary – Bagging It

Savvy Article – Boris & Donald

Savvy Poem – Snowdon’s Foot

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Vertical.

Vertical does not go with vertical.

Turning back,

I stick to ground level.

My right foot being crook,

I remain

at one with the foot of

Snowdon.

 

Pressure.

Pressure is a cure for the pain.

I apply it, settling myself down upon the arch of Snowdon’s foot,

hoping to stunt the flow of all incoming annoyances.

 

Equipped with pencils and colours, I

sketch out the house of my Achille’s heel –

pale green – not yet quite gangrenous!

 

Around it, I fill in the broccoli florets,

like clouds, not static,

but still –

even harder to capture!

 

I feel good, focused and intent upon

completion.

 

Clouds of charcoal grey force themselves

between artist and paper,

threatening to destroy

all that is, just in itself, fine about this moment.

 

A child skirts around me, invading

the me-space.

The me-space of my own arched foot.

 

‘Is it good?’ a father asks,

turning up the volume of his iPlayer in

advance of retort.

 

No child’s voice required.

Just laughter, loudness, and

a square of burnt-black

deadness.

 

The arch of my foot

barbecued, and my lungs

all clogged up with

the follies of

otherness.

 

I unravel and retreat.

The moment

still free.

 

Copyright of text and image owned by Jay Cool, 8th August, 2019

 

Savvy Diary – The Torture

 

Savvy Article – Boris & Donald

 

 

 

Savvy Poem – Nothing Illegal

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‘Nothing illegal here, mate!’ he declares, as he passes a clear-plastic sandwich bag over to a consort.

The bag, of course, containing a quantity of white powder, on full view for all passers by.

The lad, of course, containing a head stuffed full with similar bags of white powder, where once sat a brain, half-formulated.

The head, perched on a skin-and-bone body, complete with spanking-new Adidas trainers.

The trainers standing on a railway bridge, proud and firm.

The railway bridge, lording it over the fairground below.

The fairground stuffed full with young teens –

ripe for the powdering.

 

‘Nothing illegal here, mate!’ he concludes.

And, he’s right. Honest. For there’s no police presence. Nothing to stop the trainers, the spotters, the hawkers, the carnies and the teens from submitting to …

the powdering.

Nothing.

There’s nothing illegal,

because there’s no-one here who’s

legal and

there’s no-one here who’s

bothered!

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, 7th August 2019

Savvy Poem – Towyn

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Block upon block of blocks

Blocking the view of the blocks that front up to the sea

that was

the sea

before it became the block

that stopped the girls of this town from drifting away

from the block-headed boys they did not

choose to be blocked

in by –

the boys with the bags of white powder

to be passed around at profit,

like the girls – the girls, passed around

at profit.

 

These are the girls – the same girls who

made clouds, puffing their last breaths into the

heads of not-quite-dead-yet dandelions.

puffing out wishes

of a not-quite-dead-yet future.

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, August 8th, 2019

 

Savvy Letter – Dear Tesco

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Silly Poem – Conwy

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In the smallness of it, I lift up coffin lid and

hide in the spaciousness of all that is mine for keeps.

 

As, in grandeur, my ancestor, Edward I, looks down

from his castle tower, perusing all that is his,

whilst longing for his own little place

in which to

be.

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, 6th August, 2019

 

Inspired by visits to Conwy Castle and The Smallest House in Great Britain.

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Savvy Letter – Dear Harry

Savvy Poem – Rhyl

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Grandness barred

cut off

from rewards and renovations.

 

Syringes injecting

into the sandy grasslands

the remnants of young

lives attempted.

 

Young eyes ringed in

dark shadows,

seek change,

asking – not hoping –

for a chance.

 

Cashing themselves in

for a second stab

of the wire cutters,

even as the maintenance guys

hammer nails into the never-ending rows of

chipboard coffins.

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, 6th August, 2019

Savvy Poem – Port Dinorwic

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A shadow of a boy

hazy

slings slate to the seas

skimming off only the scum

of a slither of a second.

A scene snapped.

 

 

Copyright owned by Jay Cool, August 4th, 2019

 

Savvy Diary – The Torture

Savvy Article – Boris & Donald

Savvy Book – Fuse